Don’t you just love rumors? It’s so awesome to find out things about yourself that you didn’t even know. I tell you, I have learned a lot over the years about myself thanks to the rumor mill.
Here’re a couple of definitions to consider:
Rumor-1. a story or statement in general circulation without confirmation or certainty as to facts 2.gossip; hearsay 3. a continuous, confused noise; clamor; din
Gossip– idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others
Before I get started on this subject, let me make it clear that there is a huge difference between venting to someone about what is going on in your personal life when all the facts are present. The line gets crossed when a person attempts to vent about other people’s business when there are very few if any facts…and that person starts making assumptions to try to fill in the blanks of what they DON’T know.
It’s interesting to see the people who have no life and the lies that they can fabricate, I guess because they have nothing better to do.
Have you ever been around someone who does nothing but talks about other people? I’m not talking about the kind of stuff that is uplifting or truthfully informative, you know like so and so had a baby or that person got a job, but just unfavorable and degrading information. They talk about the preacher and everyone else in the church, or their boss and all the employees on the job. Did you ever stop and wonder what they are saying about you?
I have a rule of thumb that I use when talking to people who love nothing more than to gossip: If they are talking to me about everyone else, they are also talking to everyone else about me.
They say that misery loves company. When someone is constantly talking about everyone and spreading vicious rumors, that is a reflection of themselves. Think about it. If for instance Suzy is telling you that Joan was at the store and saw a wallet sitting in a basket and Joan took that wallet and stole somebody’s money, why would she say that? Maybe she even saw Joan take that wallet out of the basket, but the question is, what did she do with it? Maybe Joan took the wallet up to the manager and turned it in. Suzy obviously doesn’t have all the facts, she sees something and then makes an assumption and then goes and tells the entire church what she thinks she saw Joan do. Next thing you know, when Joan is at church, everyone is stand-offish and pulls their purse close to them when Joan is around, when in fact, the rumor that Suzy started was actually a reflection of herself and what she would have done. If Suzy had come upon that basket where someone had left their wallet, she would have put it in her purse.
Using the same scenario and taking it a bit further, Joan begins to realize that people are shunning her. Even her closest friends are suddenly making excuses of why they don’t want to get together with her. Finally one day, Joan just asks one of her good friends, what has happened. Why are people treating her that way, what did she do? Thankfully her good friend, Julie let her in on a little secret. Suzy had told everyone in the church that Joan had stolen that wallet. Well, that explains it! Joan let Julie know exactly what happened, and Julie lets a few of their friends know the truth, so some of the damage were partially repaired.
They say that when a person sees something bad happen or even if they receive bad customer service at a restaurant or store, that that person will tell eleven of their friends. However, when something good happens, only three of the friends get told. For some reason, people love to hear the bad stuff, and they love to tell everyone else the bad stuff.
What if Julie had done something different when Suzy started telling her about Joan “stealing the wallet”? What if Julie told Suzy that that is not even in Joan’s character. What if Julie told Suzy that her ears are not a garbage can, and stop telling her trash about someone else. What if Julie had gone directly to Joan and told her what Suzy said and that she wants the facts. I tell you, you can shut down a gossiper. It’s hard sometimes, but it can be done. Once that conversation turns in the direction of gossip, you put your foot down and say that you don’t want to hear it, that person will eventually get the hint and stop talking to you about that junk, or maybe even at stop talking to you at all…which is probably not a bad thing. For that matter, you can just stop going around people who are known to gossip.
Here it is, plain and simple right in the Bible:
Proverbs 26:20, 21 Where there is no wood, the fire goes out; And where there is no talebearer, strife ceases
As charcoal is to burning coals, and wood to fire, So is a contentious man to kindle strife.
In summary, here’re a few points to remember:
- If they are talking about everyone else, they are also talking about you
- The lies they fabricate are a reflection of themselves
- The rumor that someone starts about you will eventually get back around to you
The third point is a basic principle in life and one straight out of the bible as well:
1 Corinthians 4:5-The Lord will bring to light the things hidden in the darkness and disclose the motives of men’s hearts.
I will never understand why people find it necessary to attack people’s character with words. Jobs have ended, marriages have failed, friendships and relationships have been destroyed because of somebody’s loose tongue. They say “lose lips sink ships”…and I believe the ship they sink is often their own.
There are tons of scripture in the bible dealing with this subject. I believe it’s addressed so much because of how big of a problem it really is.
Rather you believe in Karma or rather you believe in God’s sovereignty, either way, those people who can’t help but spread malicious rumors about people have a special place and a special reward.
It brings me great joy and peace to reflect on Isaiah 54:17
No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment YOU shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord…